1. No one really cares what you do. People are busy living their own lives.
   • It’s an incredible revelation when you realize no one is really thinking of you all the time.
   • It is our ego that causes us to think we are so important in other’s lives.

1. People interfere in your life to the degree that you let them. Set boundaries.
   • Are people in your business that don’t belong there? If so, set boundaries.
   • Being defined by what other people think is nonsense. Only you know what is right for you.

1. Doing what someone else thinks you “should” do never works. You will always have a raging inner battle if you do this.
   • Our need to be accepted fights with our need to be authentic. This inner battle will cause us much grief.
   • Take should and ought out of your vocabulary.  Whenever I hear the word should, I instinctually know what I want to be doing is the opposite. 

1. Be brave. No one really knows what you need but you. Trust that.
   • Sit quietly and still the mind. We access truth through a quiet mind.

In a national competition, Chandra Alexander, MSW, was selected by THE OPRAH MAGAZINE as the Life Coach to deliver a series of coaching sessions to the grand prize winner of their prestigious Toyota Moving Forward contest. She also spent five years on NBC/TV “DAYTIME” giving a weekly “Reality Check”. Chandra has been living and teaching authenticity for the last 30 years and is the founder of Coaching for Authenticity, a place to explore and discover the essence of who you really are.