There is no question that the shooting death of former NFL star Steve McNair was tragic. The question I have is why is the entire media referring to Sahel Kazemi as his ‘girlfriend’? After all he was married with 4 boys, no record of him filing for divorce. That qualifies as having an affair and she was his mistress.
McNair was cheating on his wife, and for some reason the media is giving the former NFL quarterback a pass. As an example of the coverage, the NY Post says: ” His girlfriend, Sahel Kazemi, had a single gunshot wound to her head. ”
This is typical of the coverage to date.
McNair was and still is a role model, and by referring to Kazemi as his ‘girlfriend’, infidelity is being glorified. Is that the kind of message that we want to send to our children? Is this what society thinks of the union of marriage?
How about some truth in reporting. After all, McNair was having an affair.
July 9th, 2009 at 3:56 am
Oh grow some stones, Aaron. Just because you write for a site called “Bizzy Women”, doesn’t mean you have to totally pander to the other sex.
McNair is NOT getting a free pass from this. He’s DEAD after all. News of him being murdered by a lover who in turn shot herself is pretty much the headline everywhere one looks. I don’t buy your argument that this is glorifying sex out of marriage for males/young men. If anything this is serving as a deterrent. Anyways, if she wasn’t his girlfriend what was she? Just a “friend”?? She was his girlfriend on the side, man. It is what it is. And that’s the truth (in reporting.)
Now, I’ve been critical of McNair about this. At the same time though his off-the-field accomplishments shouldn’t be overlooked, either. He was generally one of the good guys in sports, and really gave overtime to charities and noble causes like the Hurricane Katrina effort. “Philanthropist” is the word I’ve come across plenty of times in describing McNair.
Again, however, I too feel these actions here shouldn’t be overlooked. He’s left 4 fatherless children and a betrayed, grief-stricken wife. There’s enough tragedy to go around. This is sending a pretty harsh message to men who think they can take a woman’s emotions for granted (see Amy Fisher.) Which leads to the other half other blame.
This young lady’s role cannot be overlooked or pushed to the side, either, in all-out efforts to condemn McNair, or men. It takes two to tango. Hopefully this sends a message to women out there who knowingly engage in these affairs, waiting their precious lives out for a fantasy that ain’t ever gonna happen. These men aren’t gonna leave their families. But these women don’t see that, and just shut out the truth that comes from their friends and family. THEY instead are seen the bad ones.
Well here it is, for everyone to see. In black and white.
All this being: NOBODY is perfect. And nobody should be condemning anybody. No has the right to. Instead, everyone should take a step back and learn from this tragedy. And be compassionate to all those who are suffering in its wake. And grieve the lives of two imperfect souls who DID do some good, too, while they were here on this Earth.
July 9th, 2009 at 2:10 pm
Nolan,
Thanks for your well thought out comments. I understand what you are saying but still think that he committed adultery and it shouldnt be sugar coated
July 9th, 2009 at 8:36 pm
I really don’t think it’s being sugar-coated. The coverage is pretty much blunt as it can be. But it’s all in perception, I guess.
My apologies for that opening sentence of mine. I can get a little fired up, hombre. That was wrong and I apologize if any offense was taken. Sincerely.