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Don’t Train Too Hard When Trying To Get Pregnant

Don’t Train Too Hard When Trying To Get Pregnant

There have long been misconceptions…about training and conception

Norwegian University just released a study which analyzed exercise and it’s impact on fertility over a ten year span.  Researchers studied 3000 women and found that two factors were associated with increased likelihood of infertility:

  1. Training every single day
  2. Training to exhaustion (regardless of frequency and duration)

This turned out to hold true even after researchers adjusted for other infertility factors (body mass, smoking, previous pregnancies, etc.).

In fact, women who worked out every single day were a whopping 3.5 times more likely to have fertility problems.  Those who exercised everyday to exhaustion had the HIGHEST risk of fertility problems.

The good news is that these factors were reversible, so once training was reduced to more moderate levels (of frequency and intensity) fertility levels rose as well. 

Researchers believe that extreme energy expenditure of exhaustive exercise alters the body’s ability to maintain the normal hormone function essential to the fertility.

That said it’s important not to stop working out all together because good overall fitness is still important for general health, including fertility.  In fact, very low levels of fitness (and obesity) are also associated with conception problems.

Moderate exercise 3-5 times per week is probably fine and beneficial for most women, but every woman is different.  Women should be particularly concerned when their training is associated with missed periods, irregular periods or no periods at all.  Menstrual irregularities are a powerful indicator that hormone function is being negatively impacted by training. 
Fgw-move-2-225[1]Geralyn Coopersmith, MA, CSCS is an exercise physiologist, certified personal trainer, author of Fit + Female:  The Complete Fitness and Nutrition Game Plan for Your Unique Body Type and the creator of The Best Me Ever, a comprehensive weight loss and wellness system just for women.  It’s a first of its kind program designed to fit into a busy women’s life.  Lose weight and look great — 90 Day Unconditional Money Back Guarantee!!

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3 Top Pregnancy and Parenthood Blogs

3 Top Pregnancy and Parenthood Blogs

If you are looking for some good content relating to pregnancy and/or parenthood, Bizzywomen.com has 3 blogs that are worth bookmarking:

babyfruit deals with issues ranging from miscarriages to parenthood. In a recent post the issue with discipline and ‘time outs’ was discussed in a really humorous way that all parents can relate to. ” But now when she does something wrong, she tilts her head and smiles as we open our mouth to scold her and says, “What? Am I going to get a Time Out?” Big Cheshire Cat grin and a glint in her eye. “Yes, you’re going to get a Time Out,” we say in the sternest voice we can muster with what I’m sure looks like Fake Stern looks on our faces. And then she says, “I want a time out. Can I have a time out now, please?” Tonight, she was talking back to G., and he made the Time Out threat. She actually said “May I be excused so I can have a time out?” (We’re teaching her to say “May I be excused” before getting up from the table. Guess she learned that one.)”

At More4kids.com lot’s of questions an expectant mother may have are dealt with. In a  recent post the issue of taking a birth class was written about. “Their goal is really to provide the mom to be with confidence that she can infact do this. These classes are usually put on by hospitals, you can find them at the hospital you plan on delivering at, but not all expectant moms take the classes. Which begs the question, do you really need the class before you have the baby?”

The baby blog has great information for parents on raising newborns. In a recent post the issue of infants watching tv was debated. “The public health implications of early television and video viewing are potentially large. There are both theoretical and empirical reasons to believe that the effects of media exposure on children’s development are more likely to be adverse before the age of about 30 months than afterward,” the authors note. Recent studies suggest that what children younger than two years watch and whether they watch it alone or with a parent may be important for their vocabulary development.”

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5 Things You Didn’t Know About Exercising During Pregnancy

5 Things You Didn’t Know About Exercising During Pregnancy

Despite the many concerns some women have about exercising during pregnancy, the fact is most of the research shows that it is safe and beneficial for both mother and baby.  Here are some surprising research findings (most from James Clapp III MD in his excellent book, Exercising Through Your Pregnancy)

1.  Exercise helps make the placenta (the fetal lung) work more efficiently improving the delivery of oxygen and nutrients to the baby.

2.  Exercise is associated with delivery of “easier”, “less fussy” babies.

3.  The babies of moms who workout are actually leaner — but of a healthy, appropriate weight and normal measurements.

4.  Women who workout through their entire pregnancy report significantly fewer orthopedic complaints (such as low back pain).

5.  Contrary to popular belief, pregnant women have an easier time dissipating heat due to higher blood volumes, more delivery of blood to the skin’s surface and lower daytime body temperatures.
Fgw-move-2-225[1]Geralyn Coopersmith, MA, CSCS is an exercise physiologist, certified personal trainer, author of Fit + Female:  The Complete Fitness and Nutrition Game Plan for Your Unique Body Type and the creator of The Best Me Ever, a comprehensive weight loss and wellness system just for women.  It’s a first of its kind program designed to fit into a busy women’s life.  Lose weight and look great — 90 Day Unconditional Money Back Guarantee!!

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I’ve Just Found Out I’m Pregnant – Can I Exercise?

I’ve Just Found Out I’m Pregnant – Can I Exercise?

If you’re reading this and you’ve just found out that you are pregnant, then congratulations! This is the beginning of a wonderful life changing experience, that you will cherish forever. But amidst the joy of knowing you are going to have a baby there are also concerns over what changes you will have to make to your current lifestyle.

One of the most common concerns for newly pregnant mums to be is always the question of exercise and pregnancy and whether it is safe.

Years ago it was strictly advised that pregnant women should avoid any strenuous activity and rest as much as possible. As a result, many pregnant women piled on the pounds during their pregnancies and then struggled to lose the excess weight afterwards.

Fortunately with the advance in science and research into this area we now know that not only is it safe to exercise during pregnancy, but that it is actually beneficial to both mother and baby.

Just some of those benefits include a better immune system, relief from morning sickness, reduced postural pain and injury and increased energy levels and feelings of positivity for both you and baby.

Even so, when you first find out you are pregnant, your natural instinct is to reduce your activity to protect your baby. Actually, this instinct is not far wrong – you definitely don’t want to be risking your baby by playing a rousing game of squash or rollerblading down some steep hills, but to stop all activity is crazy!

For one you need to be strengthening your body to support your pregnancy. As your body changes it will put some serious strain on areas like your back, shoulders and neck and if your muscles aren’t strong enough to cope with these postural changes, you could be in for severe long term damage.

You can’t build strength overnight so you need to be starting as soon as possible to support your frame.

You should also consider the amount of fat you are carrying on your body. Roughly 30% of oestrogen comes from fat so if you are carrying too much, (or too little), fat then your hormones will be out of balance, which may also have serious indications for the health of your pregnancy and your baby.

So what should you be doing to ensure you stay fit during your pregnancy whilst making sure your baby is safe and healthy?

The key is to focus on short workouts (15 minutes is fine), comprising total body exercises that target key areas like your bottom, core and midback. Things like squats, rows, pelvic floors and transverse abdominal work are ideal for you right now.

You should also be focussing on short bouts of cardio rather than long steady sessions on the treadmill or cross-trainer. Not only is short burst training about 1000 times more effective at conditioning your body, it is also much more suitable for early pregnancy as you won’t find it as draining on your essential resources.

So, is it safe to exercise in early pregnancy?

Well, yes, so long as you exercise smarter not harder. As with anything, there are always risks. If you are newly pregnant I would strongly recommend you contact a prenatal fitness specialist who can advise you on your personal circumstance and help you with a pregnancy fitness plan to suit your personal needs.

Nisha Obaidullah is a leading prenatal health & fitness expert and author of The 9 Month Club – The Complete Support System for Pregnancy. For more simple pregnancy health tips, grab your FREE copy of Nisha’s new Ebook “POWER Pregnancy – The 5 Health Secrets Every Expectant Mother MUST Know” =>
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Common Complications of Pregnancy

Common Complications of Pregnancy

Pregnancy can be an exciting time, but it can also be a scary one. Most mothers and fathers to-be share concerns about things that may go wrong in pregnancy or birth. While this article is not meant as a substitute for sound medical advice, it provides a brief look at some of the most complications of pregnancy. You will want to discuss any specific concerns with your health care provider.

Pre-eclampsia or Pregnancy Induced Hypertension (PIH) is a high blood pressure disorder of pregnancy. It has long been one of the major problems for mothers during pregnancy. It affects 7% of first time mothers. Labor may be induced early if you suffer from severe PIH. There are three different levels of PIH: High Blood Pressure alone; High Blood Pressure and protein in urine and/or swelling; High Blood Pressure, protein in urine, swelling and convulsions.

Gestational Diabetes (GD) is high blood sugar or glucose levels during pregnancy. About 4% of pregnant women will suffer from gestational diabetes. Not every mother will need to be screened using blood tests, there are guidelines as to who needs to be screened. This is typically screened for in the 28th week of pregnancy, if you need additional screening with a glucose tolerance test (GTT) it will be done at this point.

In addition to the blood group (A, B, O, AB), the Rh factor is written as either positive (present) or negative (absent). Most people (85%) are Rh positive. This factor does not affect your health except during pregnancy. A woman is at risk when she has a negative Rh factor and her partner has a positive Rh factor. This combination can produce a child who is Rh positive. If the mother and baby’s blood mix, this can cause the mother to create antibodies against the Rh factor, thus treating an Rh positive baby like an intruder in her body. Rhogam is given to help prevent this sensitivity.

Placenta previa is a condition where all or part of the placenta covers the cervix or opening of the uterus. True placenta previa occurs in about 1 in 200 pregnancies. Many times early ultrasounds may show a placenta previa, but later as the uterus grows, the condition resolves itself. If it is still present at the end of pregnancy a cesarean birth must be performed to prevent bleeding.

When a woman is said to have too little amniotic fluid she has oligohydramnios. This is defined as having less than 200 ml of amniotic fluid at term. This means that during an ultrasound the largest pocket of fluid found did not measure 1 cm or greater at its largest diameter. Though sometimes it is actually related to maternal hydration, meaning that mom is not drinking enough liquids. There is also some indication that amniotic fluid levels drop as the time of birth comes near.

Polyhydramnios is the opposite end of the scale, being defined as 2000 ml of fluid at term or greater. This occurs in fewer that 1% of the pregnancies. While polyhydramnios may be one cause for preterm labor because of uterine distension, polyhydramnios in and of itself is not a predictor for preterm labor, rather the cause of the increase in fluid is predictive of whether the pregnancy will go to term. Polyhydramnios is more likely to occur when: there is a multiple gestation, maternal diabetes or a congenital malformation.

Premature labor is a very serious complication of pregnancy. Early detection can help prevent premature birth and possibly enable you to carry your pregnancy to term or to give your baby a better chance of survival.

An incompetent cervix is basically a cervix that is too weak to stay closed during a pregnancy. It may result in a preterm birth and possibly the loss of the baby, because of the shortened gestational length. It is believed that cervical incompetence is the cause of 20 – 25 % of all second trimester losses. This incompetence generally shows up in the early part of the second trimester, but possibly as late as the early third trimester.

Of course, these are just basic information about some common complications in pregnancy. The best source of information will always be your medical provider, who can better explain how these conditions may affect your health or your baby’s.

Terri is the mother of six; 3 caesareans, 2 VBACs and an adoption. She has over fifteen years breastfeeding experience as well as peer supporter training with two organisations. Terri has completed the Childbirth Educator, Birth & Post-partum Doula certificates with Childbirth International. In addition, she also holds a BS in health education from Texas A&M University. To sign-up for her monthly e-newsletter featuring her latest articles on pregnancy, birth, breastfeeding and parenting; visit her webiste: Special Start Birth.

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Teen Sex – Be Afraid, Be Very Afraid – Teaching Sex in School

Teen Sex – Be Afraid, Be Very Afraid – Teaching Sex in School

Did your heart just start beating faster? Even the term “sex” or “family life education” brings panic, fear, and increases the heartbeat and sweat glands in most adults. However, once the panic subsides, the debate over whether to have sex education in American schools or not – is done. A new poll finds that over 90% of Americans say sex education should be taught in schools.

According to the poll, the surveyed parents supported teaching 7th and 8th graders basic information on how babies are made, and 56 percent supported teaching all aspects of sex education, including birth control and safer sex in 7th and 8th grade, with a much higher percentage agreeing it should be taught in High School.

On the other hand, exactly who IS getting taught about sex? Unfortunately, the nationwide trend is that fewer young people are learning how to reduce the risk of getting a disease and preventing pregnancy. “The majority of school systems now focus on delaying sexual education as long as possible,” said Barbara Huberman, the director of education for Advocates for Youth, a pro-education group in Washington, D.C. “While you may get an overview of contraception in the seventh or eighth grade, there are many, many school systems that are afraid to talk about it at all.”

I am a School Nurse at a Middle School in a suburb of a large city. They teach about “abstinence” in a brief session. Then, on a daily basis, I get to deal with the student’s choices and mistakes. I hear stories that make me want to cry. I hear parents frequently say, “my daughter/son would never do that”, or “I don’t think (insert child’s name here) would ever have sex”. The all seem horrified at the thought. But, what I see and hear on consistently (and remember, this is middle school) tells a different story. Just so you don’t think my school is unusual, I read articles and stories from nurses all over the country that say the same thing.

I have girls coming to me fearing pregnancy (and some really are pregnant). Some of these same girls have had multiple partners (yes, they are only 12-14 years old and yes, some are a mandatory CPS/Law Enforcement call). Amazingly, these same girls will say statements like, “I know that you can get pregnant through oral sex, but I try to be careful”. They ARE too young to be having sex, but it is happening – and not infrequently. We may have grown up in a different time, and want to believe it can’t happen in our own home, but let me give you some hard statistics:

The average girl today begins to develop some characteristics of puberty between ages 10 and 11, with many showing some changes at ages eight or nine.

One in 12 students experience their first sexual intercourse before age 13, and a quarter of all children (24 percent of girls and 27 percent of boys) have had sex by age 15, and many believe these estimates to be low. Remember, these numbers do not include the “everything but intercourse” in them. Each year, one in four sexually active teens contracts a sexually transmitted disease. Genital herpes (which cannot be cured) has increased by almost 30% in young people in the last 9 years. There are over 900,000 teen pregnancies per year. When it comes to HIV, the largest increase in cases is seen in teenagers. These statistics are frightening.

Ideally, parents should give strong teaching to their kids about honesty, integrity, self-value, and abstinence for the first 10 to 12 years of life. If they did a really good job of this, and taught their children to make good decisions, we wouldn’t be having this epidemic and being forced to have as many conversations with 14, 15 and 16 years old about what to do about an unplanned pregnancy or a STD.

Which leads to why this should be taught in the school – parents would be the ideal choice to teach this to children. That would be assuming you have parents who are willing to do so. But, a majority of parents don’t know how to talk to their kids about sex and sexually transmitted diseases. The other part of that equation is that many families today are very dysfunctional – some parents abuse alcohol, drugs, work too many hours, have high stress or anxiety, or have various other reasons for not having the ability to talk with their children. That leaves the “job” of teaching kids about sex and STD’s to the educational system.

Although this is an uncomfortable subject, it IS an important one. I am a strong believer in abstinence. If it were up to me, everyone would abstain until marriage. However, I am a realist as well. We cannot bury our heads in the sand and hope teen sex goes away. Teens are “doing it”, getting pregnant, and catching diseases. They need education and support and we need to guide them. It is our job as educators and adults to keep them safe. Please start early talking to your kids and have a good relationship with them about everything. They are the most important “assets” you have. Also, talk to your school Administrators about how you can support the family life education and be involved. Let’s try to put a dent in this sad epidemic.

Tracey S. Watson is newly fifty and full of life. She is a nurse, so is interested in health and wellness, as well as beauty, fashion, travel, and decorating. Please visit her new web page at http://TrueToLifeTracey.com

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Pregnancy Weight Loss – 3 Steps to Losing Baby Fat

Pregnancy Weight Loss – 3 Steps to Losing Baby Fat

It can be a bit of a shock to step on the scales a few weeks after having a baby – even more so if it’s been a few months. The number on the scales can have you seesawing between desperation and depression as you recall your pre-pregnancy figure and mentally tot up the time it will take to get back to that.

But don’t despair! Pregnancy weight loss is possible – here are a few tips to get you started.

1. Get Motivated

We all know how being overweight can make you miserable, especially if you can remember a time not long ago when you felt great about yourself and fit into everything in your wardrobe. Think about what your greatest motivation is to lose that baby fat. Is it so you can fit back into those skinny jeans? So you can enjoy time with your children without feeling exhausted by their constant energy? So you feel sexy and feminine again? Find your motivation and think about it any time you feel yourself faltering.

2. Get Nutrition Wise

So now you have your greatest motivation, start thinking about how to achieve your goal. Don’t believe those who say you should cut down to less than 1000 calories a day – this is bad for your health, and with the busy lifestyle of a new mom you’ll find yourself crashing. It is easy to eat healthily, despite what the fad-diet gurus would have you believe. Avoid snacking on unhealthy treats, instead eat fresh fruit and vegetables and drink at least one glass of water with every meal – they will fill you up and make your skin look great!

3. Get Physical

Unless you are advised otherwise, brisk walking is one of the best forms of exercises to do following pregnancy and you can do this as soon as you feel able. Although it is best to consult your obstetrician, after about six weeks you can move up to more vigorous exercise, like swimming or aerobics.

Losing pregnancy weight can seem like an uphill struggle, especially with the pressures of a new or growing family – but there are so many benefits to becoming the new healthier you, and by changing just a few habits you can feel and look better than ever.

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Pregnancy Hemorrhoids – Know it in Advance and Prevent it From Happening

Pregnancy Hemorrhoids – Know it in Advance and Prevent it From Happening

Pregnancy hemorrhoids are of the mostly complained issues from pregnant women. With a baby in your body, things are quite different from things at other times when you were normal. Being pregnant can mean that you might become more vulnerable to diseases and health-related problems. All of these can be attributed to hormone.  

Pregnancy hemorrhoids are considered one of the victims of hormone changes because the hormone slows the foods down that are going through the gastrointestinal tract. This slowing down results in constipation which leads to hemorrhoids because you would have to strain at stool. This straining would get the anal veins enlarged, causing hemorrhoids.  

Now that we know one of the causes of pregnancy hemorrhoids, we can take some home treatment for them right away. If you are suffering from them at the time being, it would be helpful to subdue the pain or itching by applying ice packs to the rectum area.  

However, prevention is the most important thing when it comes to hemorrhoids during pregnancy. First things first, don’t sit long in front of the desk. After finishing reading this article, you need to stand up and do some walk or exercise. However, don’t stand too long, either. The reason is that the veins in the anus will suffer pressure too if you stand for a long time.  

To prevent pregnancy hemorrhoids, another most significant thing you need to do every day is drinking enough water or other fluids. Fluids can not only alleviate the dry stool so that constipation can be eliminated, but also accelerate your metabolism, which is good because frequent visits to the bathroom can force you to exercise.

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Natural Childbirth is for Horses

Natural Childbirth is for Horses

Anyone who’s ever known a mother has heard a story of a labor/delivery that seemed to go on forever.  8 hours…12 hours…24 hours, but some how I managed to be in labor for – FOUR DAYS.  Yep…it’s true!!!   ”How is that possible” you might ask.  Well, the short answer is — because I was an idiot. (so you can just stop here if you’re a Reader’s Digest-type)

The longer answer is because I had a ton of misconceptions about what delivery was supposed to be. 

I’m an overachiever by nature.  Sure, I think that I’ve gotten better over the years,  but typically there is a part of me that wants to be head of the class in everything I do (which is another blog in itself, I suppose)

So when I was pregnant, I was going to have an A+ delivery.  None of that hours of messy, painful, unattractive, unfeminine, screaming and carrying on stuff for me…I was going to have The Mother of All Deliveries.  Calm, serene, maybe some candlelight and a little Mozart (supposed to be good for the baby’s brain).

I read EVERYTHING I could about giving birth, books, websites, pamphlets…you name it.  I actually wrote (and this is hysterical to me in retrospect) a 3-page “birth plan”.   For the record “birth plan” is an oxymoron. I’ve said here before…there are things you can “plan” for — and then there is birth.  Which does with you as it damn well pleases.

After weighing all of my birthing options, I decided to go the “Hypno-birthing” route.  Hypno-birthing is basically a method of self-hypnosis that helps you manage your contractions, so hopefully you are not writhing in pain — and carrying on like a complete lunatic.

My husband and I went to about 8-weeks of this training with three other similarly clueless couples (ALL of whom had never given birth before…hmmm… ka-winky dink?  I think not.)  Anyway, as part of the technique I had to look at this big picture of a pink flower… a chrysanthemum or something.  We were told to think calming, relaxing thoughts and breath very deeply.  And true-to-form I went to my classes and I did all of my “homework”.  I was very committed to the process and I got REALLY good and putting myself “under”.

The Hypno-birthing teacher took every opportunity to share with us with tales of the great evils of the medical profession.  Her loathing of doctors was palpable.  She portrayed a dark conspiracy of OB/GYNs who’d give you a C-section, just so they wouldn’t miss their tee times. 

She told us of all of the “dangers” to the baby and mother from C-sections.  She told us how epidurals were baaad…very baaaaaaad for mother and baby.  She told us how inductions were baaad…very baaaaaad for the mother and the baby.   

She also took it for granted that ALL of us were breastfeeding, because only a really selfish (or ignorant) woman would rob her baby of the many benefits of breast milk. Her opinions and agendas went on and on.  And I bought into everyone pretty much hook, line and sinker.  Like I said, I was an idiot.

If you have ever been to some of these pregnancy sites, you will know that the current vibe in  is much more in line with her viewpoint than one that touts the virtues of the medical profession.  In fact, virtually everything I read seemed to back up the kinds of things that she was saying.   So I was determined.  No drugs, no epidurals, no inductions…the list of things that I was not going to have done got longer and longer as the pregnancy progressed.

Then before I new it I was in my 9th month and 9 days past my due date.  Late one Saturday night I got this weird crampy feeling, not too painful but it definitely got my attention.  I was up all night and I started timing  the contractions (I wasn’t even sure that’s what they were, maybe they were Braxton-Hicks).  They were happening every 15 minutes or so.  The doctor had said that I should call her when they were about 7 minutes or so apart, so I wasn’t there yet.  So I waited….and waited.. and waited…I used my Hypo-birthing breathing, I looked at my pink flower picture and I spent most of Saturday night and all day and night Sunday waiting to see if the contractions (if that’s what they were) were going to get worse or closer together. 

By Sunday they were definitely worse, but still no closer together, but surely this couldn’t go on indefinitely.  I figured it was just a matter of hours before the contractions would be 7 minutes apart and I would call the doctor and go to at the hospital.  But they never did.  They stayed the same.

By Monday, still not believing that I was REALLY in labor, I drove myself to the doctor.  The doctor did an exam and said that I wasn’t dilated enough to be in labor yet and that the contraction were still too far apart.  I told her that I’d been up for two nights now, because I was so uncomfortable.  But she assured me that I wasn’t ready yet.  Besides, I had driven myself to the doctor’s office…and apparently you can’t do that when you’re really in labor. 

This went on all day Monday and all day Tuesday.  The pains never got closer together, but did get more and more intense and painful.  By Tuesday night it was really unbearable, I looked at that picture a lot and tried to stay calm.  I bit my lip a lot, I grabbed on to the back of chairs to brace myself, but the contractions were still about 10 minutes or more apart.  I called the doctor and said, “Listen, I know they’re not seven minutes or less, but I have been up since Saturday night and I’m in a lot of pain.”

So they told me to go to the hospital.  The doctor on call (one of my doctor’s partners whom I had only seen once during the pregnancy) checked me out and said I wasn’t dilated enough yet and the contractions were still too far apart, but that I could stay in the hospital.  Whew!!

I had planned to have a doula which I think is Greek for “G-d’s greatest gift to a woman in labor“.  This woman was a saint.  She arrived about an hour after I got there and stayed with me until the bitter end.

For the next 26-hours I labored in the hospital.  I never slept.  I just breathed, looked at the picture of that stupid flower, went in and out of a hot tub (it’s was not as much fun as it sounds, believe me), tried to walk up and down the hospital halls — anything to get things moving in the right direction.  But they never did.  For 26-hours three different doctors (none of them “mine) tried everything to get me to have a “normal” delivery. 

  • They broke my water
  • They gave me Pitosin to speed up the contractions
  • I had something called,”tetanic contractions”. Normal contractions typically last for less than a minute.  Overachiever that I am — mine lasted for about 5-minutes on average.  (At the time I thought they said “Titanic contractions” and I remembered how that story ends…didn’t sound promising) 
  • Groups of residents came in with senior doctors, pointing at screens and speaking in hushed tones — they looked very interested in what I was going through.  By the way — that’s never a  good thing, having doctors looking amazed and curious.  You want them bored and yawning.  What the hell were they doing in there anyway?  Didn’t they have a tee time to make? 
  • And then about 20 hours into it, they recommended an epidural, which I begrudgingly accepted.  But, I felt like a total failure.  Even that didn’t go smoothly, they tried and couldn’t get the needle into my back.  I swear.  Finally, they had to get a stronger needle — a little tip for girls who workout, most doctors are NOT used to dealing with muscular backs. “Geez, you’ve got a lot of muscular development in your back“.  “Good to know, Doc.  Thanks, how about you grab a bigger horse needle and we get the show on the road here”)

But once they got the needle in, WOW…that was some serious pain relief!!!  Presto — Gone!!!  After almost four days of really being in pain — I wasn’t anymore.  I wanted to find whoever invented the epidural and kiss their feet.  For the first time since Saturday night, I was able to sleep (for a whole 45-minutes).   

However, things weren’t progressing it was looking clearer and clearer to me that a C-section was in the offing.  Truthfully, by that point I didn’t care, I was so drained and exhausted from the pain and the lack of sleep.  Besides, this epidural stuff rocked!  I figured they would keep me numb and I would still be awake and able to see my baby being born.  BUT SURPRISE…

The epidural was starting to wear off and they were just getting ready to give me another dose when my son’s vitals took a turn for the worse.  They had been monitoring him all along for any signs of fetal distress and things were fine up to that point.  Then all of the sudden I must have sent off some silent alarm in the nursing station, because it seemed like the entire hospital came rushing into my room. 

They all started yelling at me to get on all fours on top of the bed, which instantly turned into a gurney.  I later learned that this is what they do when they are worried that the cord is wrapped around the baby’s neck, causing “cord compression”.  But my legs were still kind of numb so they flipped me into this all fours position and tried to hold me there.  Staff was all around me, pushing the gurney and running down the hospital corridor along side of me.  My Doula was right next to me, holding me in that position and calmly saying like an angel…”don’t worry, everything is going to be alright“. 

And within a minute I was in an operating room with an anesthesiologist leaning over me with a Mickey Mouse nose.  But the funny thing was, at this point I was calmer than ever.  I honestly didn’t care if I lived or died.  I wasn’t frightened at all.   Whatever happened, I knew that this ordeal was going to be over in the next few minutes. I calmly and quickly told the doctors leaning over me about my allergy to a certain medicine and the history of bleeding problems that is in my family — and with that I was out.

I woke up 2 hours later (I think) alone in the recovery room.  I could here the nurses talking.  I asked what I had (I didn’t find out the baby’s sex in advance)– and I heard a voice say, “you had a boy”.  I asked if I could see him and they wheeled me up to the room.   

My husband was up in the room with my son and my parents.  My parents live at least 2 hours away, so I figured I must have been out for awhile.  But the truth is, my parents were so freaked out during this whole ordeal that they had (against my “orders”) driven to the hospital and were waiting in their car in the parking lot.  (Now that I’m a parent I understand that completely.  If it was my kid I would have done the same thing.)

Then they wheeled my son in.  All cleaned up, swaddled, sleeping, wearing a silly blue hat and looking well…kinda like Papa Smurf.  And they handed him to me…I held him and I was crying a lot.  I’m not exactly sure why, but I was a mess from the C-section pain (they had me on a morphine drip), not sleeping for four days, the 26-hours in the hospital, the laboring at home before that, my hormones being outta whack…everything.  But mostly, I was so grateful and relieved that he was okay — and that I was alive to see him.

Honestly, I’m not sure what the moral of this very long story is. 

But I do know that if I had it to do over again.  I would have been A LOT more vocal and insistent that there was MORE medical intervention…A LOT SOONER.  I wouldn’t have tried to control my pain.  Something tells me if I had been screaming and cursing like a banshee things would have moved a whole lot faster.  Labor is not the time for good manners or being quiet and controlled. 

I also would have had an epidural right away — for sure. Yes, I know there are plenty of horror stories about epidurals, but there are also horror stories about natural childbirth…I think I just told you one.  If I had been more pro-active and open to more medical involvement, I believe that I would have been in labor for a lot less time and that I might have been able to actually see my son being born.

I also think that many women who have C-sections feel like failures because they didn’t have a “real delivery”.  But, the truth is if I was delivering my son while going across the country in a covered wagon, both he and I probably wouldn’t have survived.  I’m very grateful to be living in a time where I had the option of having a C-section. 

So if you are having a child, I recommend you tune out other people’s (even mine) opinions and agendas. 

Do your own research and talk with your doctor about options.  Availing yourself of medical interventions which can make you more comfortable and ultimately save both lives is nothing to feel guilty about. 

Give yourself permission TO DO WHATEVER YOU NEED TO DO do to make the experience as pleasant and comfortable for BOTH mother and baby.  Rather than having a single “birth plan” (which I can almost guarantee you will not pan out) give yourself a whole host of “birth options” that you feel comfortable using. 

I think society places a ridiculous amount of pressure on women to “do it the right way” when they deliver.  That’s ridiculous.  The “right way” is whatever way makes it as tolerable and safe for you and your baby.
Fgw-move-2-225[1]Geralyn Coopersmith, MA, CSCS is an exercise physiologist, certified personal trainer, author of Fit + Female:  The Complete Fitness and Nutrition Game Plan for Your Unique Body Type and the creator of The Best Me Ever, a comprehensive weight loss and wellness system just for women.  It’s a first of its kind program designed to fit into a busy women’s life.  Lose weight and look great — 90 Day Unconditional Money Back Guarantee!!

 

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PhotoStory Friday: Baby Got Back

PhotoStory Friday: Baby Got Back

I’ve been wanting to share this Photo Story for some time but decided to save it for a rainy day.  Well that given that it has been rainy for days here and the rain has made me so lazy, there’s no better time than the present to present my poochy past.  So, today is the day I have selected to share my junk in the trunk Photo Story.  

 

I’ve always struggled with my weight and I was never the athletic type.  The chunky little girl inside still craves Kit-Kats and Dr. Pepper for breakfast, which is what I ate every day during high school.  For most of my high school years, I wore an 11/12 and weighed 136.  For a girl just barely 5′ 1″, that is not good.  

 

senior-pic

 

Fast forward to my college years…Somehow the weight began to melt away.  I supposed I became more active, particularly dancing all night long at the clubs.  Then, my best friend died and I became severly depressed and dropped down to a size 1.  My family thought I was anorexic.  When I met my husband, I weighed 105 lbs.  

 

1996

 

While dating Allan, I remained active with aerobics and rollerblading.  Allan and I would rollerblade for 16 miles on any given Saturday. We would pack a lunch and explore new trails.  It was our little weekend excursion.  In a time B.C. (before children), we were also avid SCUBA divers.

 

Scuba

 

About a year after we were married, I became pregnant with our first daughter.  I was under the disillusion that you can eat whatever you want when you are pregnant because it will burn right off breastfeeding.  I satisfied all my cravings by eating everything and anything I wanted.  Snowcaps and sirloin were a staple in my pregnancy diet.   The little chunky girl inside happily ate cake for breakfast once again and I gained 90 pounds all due to my diet.

90lbs

 

Despite popular belief, breastfeeding did not melt the pounds away, but rather stored all the extra fat.  As I weaned my daughter off, the pounds slowly slipped away.  It took two years for me to lose the weight.

Us_2003

I didn’t shrink down to a size 1 again, but felt comfortable at a size 6.  Honestly, I didn’t think I would ever see a size 1 again after having children.

 

2004

 

For my pregnancy with DD#2, I watched what I ate the second time around and only gained 40 pounds.  

Oscar Party 2005

 

 The irony is it still took two years to come off!  Life is so cruel!

 

175

 

When we moved to our new two story home in 2006, the constant climbing up and down the stairs helped to shed a few more pounds. 

 

Dec2006_Stitch

 

Then, my new friends introduced me to running and taught me how to overcome the hurdles associated with it.  I discovered I could run and that I could be lean and muscular after all.   In 2007, my fellow marathon moms encouraged me to run my first race, the Turkey Trot. 

 

Turkey Trot 2007

 

Every day I struggle and fight with fat girl still inside me.  Fortunately, she is a runner now that only moves forward.  

gasparilla marathon2009

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