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Closing One Door – Opening Another

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Closing One Door – Opening Another


Most of us believe the saying, “When you close one door, open another” and that’s what most of us do. But what if you were to learn that opening another door too quickly may not be in your best interest and may actually work against you. What do you do when one door closes and another one is not yet open?

 

1. Don’t panic. We all feel out of control when we don’t know what’s in store for us.

  • We all feel afraid when we enter unknown territory; this is natural and happens to all of us. 
  • You need to bear the anxiety and stay the course no matter what. 
  • Once you know it is essential to head in a new direction, move forward acknowledging your fear as well as your desire to be something more.

2. Do not say, “Anything is better than nothing” and make a decision out of fear.

  • Anything is NOT better than nothing. 
  • We are so afraid of the unknown, so devoid of trust, that we become immobilized.  Is it okay to not have all the answers before we make a move? 
  • Can we not want something we have without knowing exactly what it is we do want?

3. Put in the right ingredients. If the ingredients are good, the outcome will be good.

  • Putting in the right ingredients is the key to having a good life. 
  • The universe delivers in a way we cannot imagine and we do not want to mess with the outcome. 
  • Being too concerned with the result limits the possibilities and we end up sabotaging ourselves.  Get out of the way and let the magic begin.

4. Sit quietly. Good choices come out of a quiet mind; when you can hear your own voice.

  • Our inner voice only speaks when the mind is quiet. 
  • That voice comes from the heart and ALWAYS is in your best interest. 
  • Be open to possibilities you have not even considered.

In a national competition, Chandra Alexander, MSW, was selected by THE OPRAH MAGAZINE as the Life Coach to deliver a series of coaching sessions to the grand prize winner of their prestigious Toyota Moving Forward contest. She also spent five years on NBC/TV “DAYTIME” giving a weekly “Reality Check”. Chandra has been living and teaching authenticity for the last 30 years and is the founder of Coaching for Authenticity, a place to explore and discover the essence of who you really are.

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Clearing Clutter With Beautiful Containers

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Clearing Clutter With Beautiful Containers


Simplify, simplify, simplify that is our theme for the week. When we have the goal of clutter control in our homes there are many ways to accomplish this.

I had a charming woman who lives in Australia and watches my videos on YouTube leave me the funniest message and I just had to share it:

“My husband is convinced that I buy stuff just so I can buy organizing stuff so it’s all organized, he says I spend more time organizing my craft supplies that using them (which is probably true) but I love to have things neat and know where everything is. STILL it looks like a bomb has hit my craft area because I’m trying to stuff MORE stuff into a space that isn’t big enough, I should purge, I know I should purge (I hear you telling me TO purge) but I just can’t, because I just know the milli-second I get rid of it, I will need it!”
Side view:
Clutter control using containersCan you relate to this? I certainly can. I buy organizing “stuff” because I know it will help me in my ongoing desire of clutter clearing. This cute box at the top I bought two years ago and it has been waiting for a home. It is collapsible so it wasn’t taking up much room. And now look what I did with it. This drawer has never looked so organized. The front is red and the sides are brown/black.

I love clearing clutter and just organizing in containers within drawers makes things more accessible and easier to find. And it limits the amount of things that can “live” in the drawer.

Looking down at the box:

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What is your favorite way of clearing clutter? (Press on the word comment and let us know—or if you are the first it will say no comment).

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Marilyn Bohn is an energetic, lively, compassionate, hard working and creative organizer. She was born to organize! Before becoming a professional organizer she worked professionally in diverse environments. She is involved in her community, providing her clients with a broad base of experience and knowledge.  She is a member of the National Association of Professional Organizers (NAPO).

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A challenge for the twenty-something boss

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A challenge for the twenty-something boss


You’re more likely to enjoy your job if you make friends with your coworkers. But if you don’t have any co-workers, the challenge to not only enjoy your job, but to perform successfully in it, becomes immense.

That was one of the first things I noticed as I transitioned from being an employee to running an organization. There wasn’t anyone to talk to.

As many of us are taking the plunge from cubicle prisoner to being the boss, we’re stumbling over the entry gate. Support is the number one desire of newly-minted leaders and entrepreneurs. Who can understand the situations we’re in? Who can empathize and congratulate our failures and successes? Where is the team at?

I often tell my best friend Belle about Guy A who sucks at life, or Situation B that just rocked my week. She empathizes, congratulates, and is a good friend, but she has no idea about the foolishness or magnanimity of either like a co-worker would.

Co-workers have shared experiences that they can talk about and understand, and they support each other. They know exactly who Guy A is and are acutely aware of how important Situation B is. It’s a unique bond that can’t be replaced by even the best mentor or friend.

Here’s how to deal with no co-workers:

1) Manage yourself differently. Being a leader is about making sacrifices. This is one of them. It’s part of the package, so you just have to deal with it. Dealing with no co-workers, however, does not mean relying on Ben & Jerry, my good friends of a few weeks ago. You have to maintain your healthy habits – perhaps journaling and exercise – and create new ones.

For me, this means changing my mindset. It’s letting go of things that would have bothered me in the past. It’s looking at situations differently, and oftentimes strategically. It’s realizing that people will treat me differently, and that’s what I signed up for. Mostly, it’s concentrating on what makes my position exciting and fun.

2) Start a support network. In the upper-echelons of CEOs and Presidents, support groups are quite common. Company leaders often get together for breakfast or lunch roundtables and share the challenges of running an organization. They’ve defined it differently, but really they’re simply building co-worker relationships.

It would be difficult, however, for a young leader to find value from these roundtables outside of a mentor relationship.

Generation Y leaders need to create their own groups, and those groups need to respond to how we work. Being a young leader has its own set of unique challenges. If we’re going to be taking on positions of authority earlier, and creating our own rules, we need to be honest about what those challenges are.

3) Lean on people who know nothing. As is often true, weaknesses are also strengths. While Belle cannot fulfill the role of my co-worker, I am much happier with her as my friend. You need to have people that are outside of the work/life blender to keep perspective.

Belle doesn’t come to any of my organization’s events. She doesn’t know the majority of the people. She leads a completely different life. And while we don’t have those shared experiences, it is for that reason that it’s refreshing to be around her. I’ve known her so long that I’m not defined as a young leader, as a Gen Y Princess, a blogger, or as an Executive Director. I’m just me. And that’s a big deep breath of happiness.

Co-workin’ it.

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Discount Flower Delivery For Valentines Day – The Message of Flowers

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Discount Flower Delivery For Valentines Day – The Message of Flowers


This year Valentines Day falls on a Saturday. There should be plenty of time to think about flowers for your loved one. Discount flower delivery or online flower delivery should give you plenty of ideas for those all important gifts.

Which flowers do you choose? That’s the next question. Somewhere like Lexington Fayette for example you can virtually get anything you can imagine. So, where to start? What’s her favorite color or do you have any ideas what her favorite flower might be? Ask her family or friends if you know them and think they might be discreet.

Roses for your lover

Roses are safe for this time of year.

Any idea what the colors mean? You could tell her after the flower delivery, it shows that you have put some thought into it.

A red rose

is the most obvious.It means “I love you.” It represents romance and love.

A deep pink rose

means happiness. You could tell your partner that you are very happy with your relationship.

A white rose

symbolizes innocence and purity. When combined with red roses it represents “unity”. What a great message to send.

Lavender

symbolize falling in love. When you give it you are saying I am falling in love with you or even better, I have fallen in love with you.

An orange rose

is a symbol of desire. “I desire you” or “I desire to get to know you better” is the message that orange roses send.

A blue rose

is very hard to reproduce or find, although some floral companies are trying to do it naturally. Others just dye them. To some a blue rose symbolizes “mystery” and to others “attaining the impossible”. A blue rose given can symbolize the rarity of your partner. You have attained the impossible.

Avoid black roses, the message is obvious.

When you deliver white and red roses together to someone, it is a symbol of unification and unity. “May we always be together as one.”

Want to be creative? Combine some of the above roses to send several messages at once. For example, send lavender and orange roses to say that you are falling in love with the person and desire to know them even more.

You could buy 11 roses of one color and 1 of another to show your partner that she is unique and you love her for it.

How would you go about organizing all of this and is it wise to use discount flower delivery for this?
Online discount flower services offer great deals for great products and are so convenient. Using an online discount delivery company helps to save both time and money. You can be creative and procrastinate all at the same time! It is however wise to seek out a company with a good reputation.

By sending flowers via discount flower delivery, are you compromising quality? Discount does not actually represent cheap or inferior quality, the price is lower that is all. Flowers from discount flower delivery are usually from a reputable online florist who is able to obtain flowers in great quantities and pass on the savings to you.

How can ordering online at discount flower delivery give you cheaper flowers? Well consider how it works and how the internet has made shopping online for flowers so much easier and cheaper.

The only option used to be going to your local flower shop, having someone help you with your floral purchase, set up a delivery if it was possible. Not all florist shops had the facilities for delivery. Phoning a flower shop and organizing delivery meant that you couldn’t see what you were sending.

By purchasing flowers online, you cut out the middleman, giving you a cheaper price to start off with and when you take into account the lower overhead of a internet based flower delivery, you can see there is room for even further discount as they don’t have physical flower shops to support nor a full compliment of staff. Online flower delivery do all the organizing and get those flowers delivered for you, lowering the price to you the consumer.

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Distractions That Get in the Way of Progress and Abundance

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Distractions That Get in the Way of Progress and Abundance


One of the commonalties we share is that once we achieve our goal, we then come up with a new desire. That is part of being human. We see it in children all the time. They bother you to get them a new toy. They really, really, really need it. You finally get it for them. The excitement is there. After awhile, however, they begin to focus on the next new thing that they need. How often have you seen that happen? Children have an amazing ability to get what they want. They are using the Law of Attraction all the time. It comes so easily to them.

As adults, we have different truths and realize that it is not that easy. Life is more complex. Putting your own desires and goals aside happens when you get busy taking care of others. There are so many demands that get placed on us as adults and there is never enough time to do everything. In order to juggle all of our responsibilities, something needs to be placed on the back burner. You forget what it is that you want for yourself or what your aspirations are. What happened to the dreams and ideals you had when you first started a career?

Defining a goal or a dream is the easy part. We all have the ability to dream. That is using the Law of Attraction to manifest your dreams. The challenge is that little voice that tells you there is a price to pay if you reach your goal. That is what I have begun to term the “yes, but…” syndrome. What is the downside of reaching your goal or peak potential? What keeps you from tapping into success and stimulating your personal economy?

Once you have begun to identify the doubt and negative thoughts you can begin to clear them. Some of the conflicts that come up include:

 

  • Being successful will take away time from family and friends.
  • If you are successful, you will have to work harder.
  • You don’t deserve to succeed because of something you did earlier in your life.
  • You are afraid that you will not be loved or would be rejected if you were successful.

 

Becoming aware of the doubt and internal conflict is the first step to making change. You don’t have to have them. I know. I had to get over my fear of public speaking and have my first presentation ready in four months. Thoughts can change. Tony Robbins states that “80% of success is psychology and 20% is inner conflicts.”

Now that you have recognized your doubting voice and “yes, buts…” you can begin to clear them. Identify them. Who did you hear this from before? Is this actually your concern or is it someone else’s concern that you heard repeatedly and actually internalized as your own

The Law of Attraction and the Emotional Freedom Technique are the perfect couple. LoA helps you to create your goal and EFT does the clean up work of removing the debris that gets in the way of reaching your goal. Using them will help you to tap into your success and to stimulate your personal economy. This will help you to raise your vibration and increase the success of getting what you want. They make a powerful combination.

Pick a “yes, but…” that you have as a block to your goal. Then tap for it.

Setup: “Even though I have doubts about my goals and what would change in my life if I reached my goal, I want to choose success.”
“Even though a part of me is comfortable with where I am although I would rather be somewhere else, I choose to feel calm and confident about my ability to reach my goal.”

“Even though a part of me is afraid to let go of my doubts and worry, I accept who I am and how I feel.”

***Now for the phrases that focus on the problem***
Eyebrow: “I am used to doubting my abilities.”
Side of Eye: “I’m afraid to change because I have become comfortable with where I am.”
Under Eye: “What if I started focusing on my goal?”
Nose: “I am great at making excuses for staying where I am, what if I could change?”
Chin: “I don’t feel safe about the unknown if I began to change.”
Collarbone: “A part of me is afraid to change.”
Under Arm: “I’m afraid to let this “yes, but…” go.”
Head: “I’m willing to change my focus and frequency.”

***Now for the positive focus on the solution***
Eyebrow: “I want to feel excited about this goal.”
Side of Eye: “I choose to change my focus right now.”
Under Eye: “I choose to release my doubts and worry.”
Nose: “I appreciate how good thinking about my goal makes me feel.”
Chin: “I am willing to change my thoughts and focus.”
Collarbone: “I can be positive as I begin to focus on my goal.”
Under Arm: “I appreciate feeling inspired to choose a goal.”
Head: “I feel inspired to choose a new direction to move in.”

Take a deep breath.

Continue to tap for each negative thought that keeps you from reaching your goal. You will begin to feel a change in your energy as you tap into success and stimulate your personal economy.

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