There is no place where it is more important to show gratitude than in your referral marketing activities. Letting people know that you appreciate what they have done for you makes it easier for that person to refer you again.

I find that women are so much better at thanking others for helping them than men are. Why is that? A hand written note or a small token of appreciation, hands down women are most effective at showing appreciation.

So, the rest of this article is for the men. Say thank you to the people who refer you, thank those who connect you to the people you want to be connected to. Systems like Sendoutcards make it easy for you say thanks. You can create a card, add a little gift if you want and send it out, all online. It takes all of 10 minutes, but the return is 10 fold. If you don’t want to use Sendoutcards come up with a system of your own, make it a habit.

People want to be thanked, people want to be appreciated, when you take the time to let people know how much you appreciate them, you will win over and over again.

Hazel M Walker, owns three award winning franchise’s. She is a 10 year owner of two BNI Franchises where she teaches members how to leverage their time and network to build each others businesses. She is also a Referral Institute franchise owner and teaches Business Owners how to harness the Science of Referrals to develop Referrals for Life. Hazel is a published author in New York Times best sellers Masters of Networking and Masters of Sales. As a member of the National Speakers Association she travels the world speaking to businesses and women’s organizations on the topics of networking to create a life you love.

“It is our prayer that as we heal our own minds of fear and negativity the world we see will be healed along with us” -Gerald Jampolsky M.D.

In the timeless book Love is letting Go of Fear, Gerald Jampolsky, M.D. illustrates the art of  personal transformation through letting go of the past, staying focused on the present  and moving confidently toward your future.

This book is a must have for anybody interested in learning how to walk in gratitude. While reading this little treasure for the third time … It occurred to me that the book is 30 years old and many of you may have not heard of this poignant work of love.

Here us a brief look at each simple, yet profound lesson:

All that I give I give to myself

- To give is to receive is the law of love. When we give our love away to others we gain and what we give we simultaneously receive.

Forgiveness is the key to happiness

-Inner peace can be reached only when we practice forgiveness.

I am never upset for the reason I think

-Most of us have a belief system based on past experiences and on perceptions from the physical senses. This belief system presumes that the outside wold is the CASUE an we are the EFFECT.

I am determined to see things differently

- The world we see that seems so insane may be the result of a belief system that isn’t working. It is our memory of fear and pain that make us so vulnerable. The vulnerability makes us want to predict and control our future at all costs.

Giving up Attacking thoughts

-Many of us feel  at times that we are hopelessly trapped in the world we see. If we remember that it is our thoughts that make up the world, we can change them.

I am not he victim of the world I see

Do you ever feel like you are a victim of the world in which you live? When we allow ourselves to think that we live in a unfriendly environment where we fear being hurt of victimized, we suffer. To be consistent in achieving inner peace , we must perceive a world where everyone is innocent.

Today I will judge nothing

-Have you given yourself the opportunity of going through an entire day accepting yourself and everyone without judgement?

The instant is the only time there is

-I am determined to live today without past of future fantasies. I will remind myself: This instant is the only time there is.

The past is over it can touch me not

-When we think we have been hurt  by someone in the past, we create defenses to keep ourselves from being hurt in the future. By forgiving and letting go of the past, I free myself from the painful burdens I have carried into the future.

I could see peace instead of this

-Most of us go through life with a belief system that our happiness is largely determined by the events in our environment and reactions of other people to us. We need to instruct out minds to change our perceptions of the world and everything in it.

I can elect to change all thoughts that hurt

-Free will and choice are inherent attributes of the mind. WE can choose to let go of everything but our loving thoughts.

I am responsible for what I see

-I choose the feelings experience, and I decide upon the goal I would achieve.  And everything that happens to me, I ask for, and receive as I have asked.

This treasured little book can be devoured in an hour and savored for a life time. Pick up a copy Here at Amazon for ubder $10.

Enjoy!

Shann Vander Leek is the Founder of True Balance Life Coaching and Co-founder of Seize True Success. She is a Coach Training Alliance certified professional coach, and certified yoga instructor. Shann is a prolific blogger, published writer and co-author of the Best Selling Book – Wake Up Women BE Happy Healthy & Wealthy. Shann’s personal style and direct approach have guided and inspired many in overcoming personal and professional challenges. Her background in sales, marketing and client development, along with leading a talented sales force for many years prepared her for the business of professional coaching. Shann inspires women in transition to create balance in their lives through personal coaching, yoga and creative expression. Telephone and email consultations make her accessible to clients all over the world. To find out about her Coaching Programs for Women, call Shann at 231.668.111 or visit www.truebalancelifecoaching.com

“It is our prayer that as we heal our own minds of fear and negativity the world we see will be healed along with us” -Gerald Jampolsky M.D.

In the timeless book Love is letting Go of Fear, Gerald Jampolsky, M.D. illustrates the art of  personal transformation through letting go of the past, staying focused on the present  and moving confidently toward your future.

This book is a must have for anybody interested in learning how to walk in gratitude. While reading this little treasure for the third time … It occurred to me that the book is 30 years old and many of you may have not heard of this poignant work of love.

Here us a brief look at each simple, yet profound lesson:

All that I give I give to myself

- To give is to receive is the law of love. When we give our love away to others we gain and what we give we simultaneously receive.

Forgiveness is the key to happiness

-Inner peace can be reached only when we practice forgiveness.

I am never upset for the reason I think

-Most of us have a belief system based on past experiences and on perceptions from the physical senses. This belief system presumes that the outside wold is the CASUE an we are the EFFECT.

I am determined to see things differently

- The world we see that seems so insane may be the result of a belief system that isn’t working. It is our memory of fear and pain that make us so vulnerable. The vulnerability makes us want to predict and control our future at all costs.

Giving up Attacking thoughts

-Many of us feel  at times that we are hopelessly trapped in the world we see. If we remember that it is our thoughts that make up the world, we can change them.

I am not he victim of the world I see

Do you ever feel like you are a victim of the world in which you live? When we allow ourselves to think that we live in a unfriendly environment where we fear being hurt of victimized, we suffer. To be consistent in achieving inner peace , we must perceive a world where everyone is innocent.

Today I will judge nothing

-Have you given yourself the opportunity of going through an entire day accepting yourself and everyone without judgement?

The instant is the only time there is

-I am determined to live today without past of future fantasies. I will remind myself: This instant is the only time there is.

The past is over it can touch me not

-When we think we have been hurt  by someone in the past, we create defenses to keep ourselves from being hurt in the future. By forgiving and letting go of the past, I free myself from the painful burdens I have carried into the future.

I could see peace instead of this

-Most of us go through life with a belief system that our happiness is largely determined by the events in our environment and reactions of other people to us. We need to instruct out minds to change our perceptions of the world and everything in it.

I can elect to change all thoughts that hurt

-Free will and choice are inherent attributes of the mind. WE can choose to let go of everything but our loving thoughts.

I am responsible for what I see

-I choose the feelings experience, and I decide upon the goal I would achieve.  And everything that happens to me, I ask for, and receive as I have asked.

This treasured little book can be devoured in an hour and savored for a life time. Pick up a copy Here at Amazon for ubder $10.

Enjoy!

Shann Vander Leek is the Founder of True Balance Life Coaching and Co-founder of Seize True Success. She is a Coach Training Alliance certified professional coach, and certified yoga instructor. Shann is a prolific blogger, published writer and co-author of the Best Selling Book – Wake Up Women BE Happy Healthy & Wealthy. Shann’s personal style and direct approach have guided and inspired many in overcoming personal and professional challenges. Her background in sales, marketing and client development, along with leading a talented sales force for many years prepared her for the business of professional coaching. Shann inspires women in transition to create balance in their lives through personal coaching, yoga and creative expression. Telephone and email consultations make her accessible to clients all over the world. To find out about her Coaching Programs for Women, call Shann at 231.668.111 or visit www.truebalancelifecoaching.com

A few post back I wrote about “Thank You Notes” from Retail establishments and how that made such a big difference to the customers.  It was commented that the culture of the organization started at the top and worked its way down.

How TRUE a statement that is:  I received this letter from a friend and colleague yesterday and I can only believe that this organization“Red Robin” has a great culture from the TOP Down!  Here is staff going above and beyond:

Dear Family and Friends-

On March 24, 2008 my youngest(and tallest) brother, Kirby, had an arthroscopic heart procedure to repair a very large hole.

Somehow, Red Robin Gourmet Burgers found out about Kirby and our family and 3 staff members(1 as Red Robin himself, and 2 managers) came to the hospital after Kirby’s successful surgery with a huge gift basket, a pillow and pillow case signed by all the staff at their Red Robin, and a ton of food(exactly what Kirby was looking for after going so long without food for the surgery).

To celebrate the 1 year anniversary of that successful surgery, we went to Red Robin on March 26, 2009 to be with our “Red Robin family” who demonstrated so much love to us a year earlier.

We arrived to find a table set for us, a special welcome sign(made by the general manager & his wife), huge smiles, welcoming arms, and warm hearts. We visited with them, giving them updates on Kirby and the family, and soon enjoyed an INCREDIBLE meal. To explain an INCREDIBLE meal: 5 huge burgers, onion rings, bottomless fries and colas.

The staff even sang Kirby a Birthday song since his birthday was about a month previous. Near the end of our meal, the waitress delivered our “bill”. The “bill” indicated a balance of $0- a full, huge meal at no cost! How incredible!

THESE PEOPLE ARE AMAZING AND HAVE BLESSED MY FAMILY! Please, PLEASE visit/support Red Robin, especially the one in Noblesville, IN, mention Kirby, and express the huge amount of gratitude the Cotterman family has for our “Red Robin family”.

Hazel M Walker, owns three award winning franchise’s. She is a 10 year owner of two BNI Franchises where she teaches members how to leverage their time and network to build each others businesses. She is also a Referral Institute franchise owner and teaches Business Owners how to harness the Science of Referrals to develop Referrals for Life. Hazel is a published author in New York Times best sellers Masters of Networking and Masters of Sales. As a member of the National Speakers Association she travels the world speaking to businesses and women’s organizations on the topics of networking to create a life you love.

Welcome to the 3rd edition of A for Authenticity Blog Carnival.  This edition explores self- awareness, self-esteem, grooving for gratitude, earning, saving and investing money for the long haul, coming to terms with our own appetities and desires, improving relationships by becoming more accountable and present, learning how not to be defined by what other people think, and developing patience. Enjoy the following articles:

Peter presents Why Self Awareness is Fundamental to Personal Growth (& How to Cultivate It) posted at The Change Blog. “The more doors we open the more doors we discover there are to be opened. Self awareness is the very beginning of personal development. It may very well be the ultimate end.”

Stephen says, “Hi Chandra, There are many tools out there that will help you get the most out of the Law of Attraction. The Law of Attraction is always working and running in the background – whether you use the tools or not. The fastest way that I know to manifest with the Law of Attraction is to use the ‘Appreciation Sob’. It has produced miracles for me out of thin air and it puts the Law of Attraction into over drive. See the article to learn more.”

Stephen Martile presents Accelerating the Law of Attraction (Appreciation Sob) posted at FreedomEducation.ca by Stephen Martile.

Surfer Sam says, “Do you truly know yourself? Do you like the person you see? Would you like to become a better person? Self-esteem is the value you place on yourself. It is your sense of personal worth, along with your confidence and your respect for yourself. You have hopes and dreams for yourself, but you don’t know how to reach them. There is a gap between wanting and having, a gap between desiring and realizing your desires. Take heart. You can make changes in your own life, real and lasting changes.”

Surfer Sam presents Building Self Esteem. Skills for Self Improvement and Self Help ! Surfer Sam posted at Surfer Sam and Friends.

MBB presents How To Become A Self Made Millionaire posted at Money Blue Book.   The Process Of Becoming A Millionaire Is Not A Get Rich Quick Scheme, But A Patient and Systematic Approach To Earning, Saving, and Investing Money.

Zhenren presents What is your motivation? posted at Seeing. Knowing. Doing.  He says, ” When your motives first formed, you were a different person, in different circumstances. Recognise this, and you may find that your motive evaporates in the light of your awareness.”

Kelly Turner presents Appetites: Why We Supress Them and Why We Should Stop posted at Grounded Fitness.  Kelly says,  “Women have so many more opportunites than we did 100 years ago. We can vote, go to college, hold jobs- more doors are open to us than ever before. We are equal; we are entitled; we are human. Why do we continue to be ashamed of and supress our most human desires?”

Jeff presents Core advice lasting you a lifetime posted at Gobs Health.     “Here is an article on a book I have high esteem for. It’s a summary of core principles created by Dale Carnegie and my reaction on how they can improve relationships with almost anyone.”  

Chris Edgar says, “Many of us, rationally or otherwise, get nervous in social situations because we worry that others are going to verbally attack us and we’ll be unable to “defend” ourselves.   How do we overcome this fear and regain a sense of composure in our interactions? In this article, I describe three approaches I’ve used myself and in working with others.” 

Chris Edgar presents Calling A Truce In The “War Of Words” posted at Purpose Power Coaching.

Mike Salara presents HOW TO MAKE PATIENCE WORK FOR YOU posted at Mike Salara.

Pearl mattenson presents What do you think of me? chameleon qualities – strengths – handwriting | Carrie and Danielle posted at Carrie and Danielle.     Pearl says, “I believe we are infinitely complex and there is no end to the ways in which we can surprise ourselves.”

Louis Burns presents Crafting Mental Movies For Others posted at NLP Marketing Blog.  This article is about not only visualizing your own goals but the experience you want other people to have as well.

In a national competition, Chandra Alexander, MSW, was selected by THE OPRAH MAGAZINE as the Life Coach to deliver a series of coaching sessions to the grand prize winner of their prestigious Toyota Moving Forward contest. She also spent five years on NBC/TV “DAYTIME” giving a weekly “Reality Check”. Chandra has been living and teaching authenticity for the last 30 years and is the founder of Coaching for Authenticity, a place to explore and discover the essence of who you really are.