Most of us believe the saying, “When you close one door, open another” and that’s what most of us do. But what if you were to learn that opening another door too quickly may not be in your best interest and may actually work against you. What do you do when one door closes and another one is not yet open?
1. Don’t panic. We all feel out of control when we don’t know what’s in store for us.
- We all feel afraid when we enter unknown territory; this is natural and happens to all of us.
- You need to bear the anxiety and stay the course no matter what.
- Once you know it is essential to head in a new direction, move forward acknowledging your fear as well as your desire to be something more.
2. Do not say, “Anything is better than nothing” and make a decision out of fear.
- Anything is NOT better than nothing.
- We are so afraid of the unknown, so devoid of trust, that we become immobilized. Is it okay to not have all the answers before we make a move?
- Can we not want something we have without knowing exactly what it is we do want?
3. Put in the right ingredients. If the ingredients are good, the outcome will be good.
- Putting in the right ingredients is the key to having a good life.
- The universe delivers in a way we cannot imagine and we do not want to mess with the outcome.
- Being too concerned with the result limits the possibilities and we end up sabotaging ourselves. Get out of the way and let the magic begin.
4. Sit quietly. Good choices come out of a quiet mind; when you can hear your own voice.
- Our inner voice only speaks when the mind is quiet.
- That voice comes from the heart and ALWAYS is in your best interest.
- Be open to possibilities you have not even considered.
In a national competition, Chandra Alexander, MSW, was selected by THE OPRAH MAGAZINE as the Life Coach to deliver a series of coaching sessions to the grand prize winner of their prestigious Toyota Moving Forward contest. She also spent five years on NBC/TV “DAYTIME” giving a weekly “Reality Check”. Chandra has been living and teaching authenticity for the last 30 years and is the founder of Coaching for Authenticity, a place to explore and discover the essence of who you really are.
