Very interesting post over on grownchildren.net (what a great title, btw). The gist of the post is the importance of having “The Chat” with your kids. I’m squimish when it comes to discussing adolescence but for some reason, I find financial discussions to be easier. Not so for most people.
So, it got me thinking about 3 important reasons to discuss finances with kids:
- logistics: it happens that parents pass away without ever telling children where their assets are located. In my job as a financial planner, I see this occur with more frequency than you’d expect. Children spend the time post-mortem looking for and tracking down assets. Bequeath the assets
or give them away but don’t lose them. Keep your kids in the loop. - ethical inheritance: use these discussions to impart your values on your children. Let them know why you worked so hard all your life. Explain to them how you manage the work/life conundrum. These discussions, however awkward, mean a lot to your children, while you’re around and after. AS Penny mentioned in the article linked to above, it’s also a great forum to explain divergence in inheritances between family members. I remember my grandfather, OBM, showing me his mother’s will which effectively left nothing to him and all to his siblings because he had done well in business. He understood what he mother meant by her actions and in fact, respected her for such decisions.
- wealth transfer: how frequently we see new clients coming into money for the first time in their lives while in their late 50s and 60s. Their parents lived to a ripe age and left money for their middle-aged children. Frequently, as we see the baby boomers retire, this requires the children receiving inheritance to learn basic asset management skills and/or shop around for an advisor. The sooner the children are brought into the circle of trust, the sooner and quicker they can start scaling the knowledge curve required to manage money responsibly.





